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Pay-offs for NOT Creating Your Desired Reality – Pay-off #5 Self-righteous
Why would we not want to create a successful reality? Why would we not want success, happiness, peace, fulfillment, and love?
Instead of success and happiness, we are seduced by pain and suffering. In our society, we have a belief, “No pain, no gain.” Usually we don’t change until our backs are against the wall, until we’ve reached “rock bottom,” when change becomes a must.
There are “pay-offs” for not creating a successful, prosperous, fulfilling, joyful reality. Usually we have one or two that is our go-to pay-off.
Families have a pay-off that run in the families that might also play out in our lives as well. Might not be our first go-to pay-off but pops up every now and then.
The seven pay-offs are:
Pay-off #1 – Avoidance
Pay-off #2 – Blame
Pay-off #3 – Self-pity
Pay-off #4 – Guarantee
Pay-off #5 – Self-righteous
Pay-off #6 – Self-importance
Pay-off #5 – Self Righteous/Anger – for Not Creating Our Reality
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.
Buddha
Some people would rather be angry than to be at peace. Somehow, they think there is power in being angry. Being at peace is submissive and weak. If they were nice, they would be used and abused. Vulnerability is a handicap, not a strength!
These are the people that constantly complain. Nothing is ever right. They never direct their comments to someone that has the power to solve and/or resolve their problem. They would rather find fault with what they perceive as not being right. They have all the answers. But no one has ever asked them for the solution.
Anger is their defense. “Life is cruel and harsh. There are no free lunches.” Anger is the mechanism they use to push others out of their lives. They don’t want anyone to see the true them for fear of rejection. They use their anger as a manipulation to control others. They would rather be sarcastic and cynical than be vulnerable.
Pay-off #5: Self-Righteous/Anger…righteous so to feel hurt and/or anger. Refusal to resolve the hurt and anger. Wanting to feel hurt…wanting to feel anger…wanting to have the right to feel angry. This pay-off is about “angers” that they won’t do anything about. If they really wanted to let go of the anger, they would do something about it.
EFT tapping can help. EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique and is a simple yet very effective process to eliminate the dysfunctional beliefs and emotions that block our health, wealth, happiness, and wisdom.
EFT Tapping Statements for Pay-off #5- Self-Righteous/Anger
* I am angry that my dreams never came true.
* I am angry that I am caught in survival.
* I am angry that I am not in control of my life.
* I am angry the demands put on me by others.
* I am angry that other people’s needs are more important than mine.
© Tessa Cason, 2021.
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