Pay-offs for NOT Creating Our Desired Reality – Pay-off #3

Pay-off #3 Self pity

Why would we not want to create a successful reality? Why would we not want success, happiness, peace, fulfillment, and love?

Instead of success and happiness, we are seduced by pain and suffering. In our society, we have a belief, “No pain, no gain.” Usually we don’t change until our backs are against the wall, until we’ve reached “rock bottom,” when change becomes a must.

There are “pay-offs” for not creating a successful, prosperous, fulfilling, joyful reality. Usually we have one or two that is our go-to pay-off.

Families have a pay-off that run in the families that might also play out in our lives as well. Might not be our first go-to pay-off but pops up every now and then.

The seven pay-offs are:
Pay-off #1 – Avoidance
Pay-off #2 – Blame
Pay-off #3 – Self-pity
Pay-off #4 – Guarantee
Pay-off #5 – Self-righteous
Pay-off #6 – Self-importance
Pay-off #7 – Clinging to the past

Pay-off #3 – Self-pity – for Not Creating Our Reality

Those on top of the mountain did not fall there.
Marcus Washling

“Oh, poor woe is me! No one loves me. No one to help me. I have to do this all by myself. I do everything for them and they do nothing for me! No one cares about me or the hell of my life! Nothing ever goes my way. Life has always and will always be a struggle. I never get any breaks in life”…and on and on and on…

Another victim…everything is hopeless. Their situation is helpless. No one can help them. If someone offered to help, they would refuse with a number of reasons why someone could not help them. Only they can do it right. No one else would be able to figure it out. It is their “responsibility” so they have to do it themselves. If they let someone else help, it would not be done correctly. They would have to redo it so they might as well do it. They turn down any and all help and then feel sorry for themselves that they have to do the work themselves.

Pay-off #3 – Self-pity. Victim. Martyr. Helpless. Life is hopeless. If things were great, too much would be required of them. EFT tapping can help.

EFT tapping statements for Pay-off #3 – Self Pity:
* Life sucks.
* No one understands me.
* My life will never be any better than it is right now.
* My parents would look fabulous if I were successful.
* I am stuck in a rut of self-pity and hopelessness.

© Tessa Cason, 2021.

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