EFT Tapping for Difficult Toxic Parents

Boy with Parents Fighting

Some parents plant seeds of fear, shame, or guilt. As we grow into adulthood, these seeds grow into invisible weeds that invade our lives in ways we never dreamt they could. Their tendrils do harm to our relationships, our careers, and our families.
Susan Forward

There is nothing more devastating than the mistreatment of children by their parents. This treatment not only destroys a child, it also robs them of their innocence. It erodes the very foundation of who they are, who they will be, and who they will become as adults. Destructive patterns that are established as children may be some of the most difficult to let go of, to face, resolve, and heal.

Toxic means poisonous, noxious, contaminated. The phrase toxic parent was coined to describe parents whose negative behaviors inflict emotional damage onto their children’s sense of self. This includes parents who abuse their children verbally, mentally, physically, and/or sexually, as well as parents who are inadequate, who ignore the needs of their children, whose only concern is themselves…

Did you get to be a kid? Do you still have difficulty finding your self-worth? Do you feel worthless, unlovable, and inadequate? Were your parents incredibly self-centered? EFT tapping can help. EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique and is a process that can desensitize painful memories and emotions as well as change dysfunctional beliefs.

EFT tapping statements for Difficult Toxic Parents:

Adapt the statements to fit your situation. “Parent” or “parents.” If mother applies, you can substitute whatever you call/called her. If father applies, you can substitute whatever you call/called him. Change the tense to fit. “Keep” or “kept”, “feel” or “felt”…still or in the past.

  • I never got to be a kid.
  • I felt hurt and ashamed.
  • It is safer to be invisible.
  • I sabotage relationships.
  • I was beaten by my parent.
  • It is difficult to trust others.
  • My parents abandoned me.
  • I am so tired of their drama.
  • Fun is not in my vocabulary.
  • No one stopped my parents.
  • My parents played the martyr.
  • I was frightened of my parents.
  • I want my parents to rot in hell.
  • I find ways to avoid my parents.
  • My parents have a mean streak.
  • My parents push all my buttons.
  • My miserable life is all their fault.
  • My parents are incapable of love.
  • I don’t want to forgive my parents.
  • My parents got drunk, used drugs.
  • There is an emptiness inside of me.
  • I had to be the adult to my parents.
  • I dread interacting with my parents.
  • My parents were physically abusive.
  • Chaos was a way of life in my family.
  • I cannot survive without my parents.
  • My parents criticized me constantly.
  • I have difficulty connecting with others.
  • My parents were incredibly self-centered.
  • I still have difficulty finding my self-worth.
  • I feel worthless, unlovable, and inadequate.

@ Tessa Cason, 2022.

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